We do not need to perform to earn approval from others. Our sense of identity rests in Christ, not in our abilities or in relationships with other people.
Loving God needs to come first. I live for Christ, trying to please Him in what I do and say. But I want to do more than live for Him; I want to live with Him.
Parents tend to have strong feelings about education. We all want to do the best we can for our children, and we can tend to resent any implication that the choices we make might be inferior to someone else’s.
Do you think it better to have high expectations of others and risk disappointment, or to have low expectations and have them exceeded regularly?
I sometimes dream about what it would look like if we could collectively shift from a scarcity/abundance mindset to one that recognizes enough. I don’t know how we can make that shift as a society, unless it is as a change that starts with individuals and families, slowly building to a critical mass.
The enneagram can also help you understand the people in your life, giving you a glimpse of what life looks like from a (sometimes very) different perspective.