Do you think it better to have high expectations of others and risk disappointment, or to have low expectations and have them exceeded regularly?

Do you think it better to have high expectations of others and risk disappointment, or to have low expectations and have them exceeded regularly?
Dreher’s plan is an “option” for certain people, but certainly not for all. I wonder if, after some of the criticism he has received, Dreher would edit anything from the book. I’d be curious to see what changes he would make if he were ever to rewrite it for a second edition.