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  1. Thank you, Jill, for sharing your story of Joshua’s short life. Our first child, Rebecca, would be forty years old this year had she lived, but she died at the age of 3 months from a heart condition. Even though many years have passed, I cried when I read your words this morning.

  2. Thanks Jill for your words and your honesty. I remember coming to your visitation and not knowing what to say. Little did I know that many years later we would be in the same room grieving for our 21’year old son Shane. I have used Shane’s death as a positive for Gods glory. I know the pain for losing a son, just like you. But more importantly, I know Gods love and grace through hard and sorrowful times. And best of al….our children are in heaven enjoying glory!!!! What a miracle..that God wants us there with him.

  3. Thank you for sharing. My Mother lost a baby son-born to early- and often shared with me the same thoughts and emotions. Grief has so many facets and is experienced in so many different ways. I think many people, dealing with grief, experience the ‘fog’ mentioned in your post. One author I remember reading said ” Grief is the world turned gray, while I stumble around wearing a bathrobe made of lead.” I am sure your post will be helpful to others-again, thanks for sharing.

  4. Jill,

    I deeply appreciate your piece. If I were still teaching Family Communication, I would make this required reading. While I have not experienced the loss of a child, I know the pain of losing a sibling at a very young age. I have also learned to listen to those who have lost a child through miscarriage. These life stories help us so very much to be more sensitive to the pain of our brothers and sisters.

  5. What a beautiful article! Our daughter and son-in-law, both of whom are 2011 graduates of Dordt had a very similar story in October, 2012. Full term baby boy born in Sioux City, needed to be flow to Omaha but the weather was too bad, so he went by ambulance. We live in the Chicago area and when we received news there was an emergency C-section and complications at birth, Sioux City felt an eternity away. Our grandson lived for 2 days from Vasa previa. Worse days of our lives. Perfect pregnancy with normal ultrasound also. These kids at at age 23 we’re picking out Tiny casket, and deciding where to bury Isaac, and how to deal with grief . It’s been just 5 years now, and the Lord has been faithful with blessing them with 2 beautiful girls and the third girl due on Monday, October 23. Kendra Broekhuis, a graduate of Dordt also, and also lost a baby, has a blog and just recently spoke of the pain of losing a child. Thanks for your testimony that grief doesn’t go away, but it does change. To God be the glory!

  6. Thank you Jill. My mom had a still born baby when I was in 6th grade. No one talked to me at school about it and I was so sad. I just wanted to talk about her.
    This was so well written. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  7. Beautifully written Jill, every word is so true as if what I am feeling is put into words. Unfortunately I became a member of baby loss club when I lost my 15 days old perfectly healthy and beautiful baby boy to sepsis on 3 Jan 2019, he battled for life in NICU for 5 days but couldn’t made it. Every word that you have written is so so true. We got him after struggling for 5 years with unexplained infertility… my life has come to an halt

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