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  1. Liz, you show how to trust God when your adopted son seems uncontrolled and extremely hard to handle. Your story is very inspiring. You are a family indeed bcause you walked each step trusting God.

  2. Robyn, thank you for your sweet words. I will confess, however, through the dark times, my life has been more of searching for God than trusting in God. God is faithful even when my own faith is lacking.

  3. I just want to say that you are doing a very good job as a parent. I know it’s tough, But you are doing it right with God. He is special. You are special too. And GOD gives special children to special parents. May God continue to bless you more and more. Thank You for sharing your story. I hope we all will slow down and notice the beautiful little things that God placed in our lives.

  4. I can identify with many things in your article and admire your sense of acceptance about your son’s autism diagnosis. I am also the mother of a recently diagnosed 3 1/2 year old with ASD. I adore her, and find joy in many things about her, but I ache deeply for the ways she struggles, and wonder if I’ll ever find myself able to praise God for making her this way – for allowing her to struggle with Autism. I know He loves her, I know he loves us and has good plans for us all – but that’s hard to feel when I’m reminded multiple times daily of the ways in which she’s different than her peers and the ways she struggles. While there are many joys that we celebrate with her and about her, there isn’t a day that passes by where I wish she didn’t have to struggle the way she does.

    1. Joya, thank you for the comment. I will admit that the acceptance of our reality isn’t always easy and doesn’t always come without a sense of pain and loss. I, too, am reminded daily how he can be different from his peers. But, there are also other times when he seems so “normal” compared to his classmates or friends, and then I begin to question the diagnosis or our own parenting skills (or lack of…at times). Or, there are times when we, as parents, forget the reality we live in and do crazy things like decide to bring both of our sons (our other son has a ADHD diagnosis) to a wedding. (What were we thinking!?! The meltdown half way through the reception by both boys clearly shows we weren’t thinking! #parentfail) We want to be able to do everything others do but simply can’t. It can be like walking a tightrope of emotions most of the time!

      I can say with time there is an acceptance of our reality and what is “normal” to us. Yes, our son may not be able to do everything his peers can do BUT he definitely amazes me in other areas. The way he “holds it together” at school when his sensory meter is going on overload. Or, the strength he holds when he has to just walk away from a situation that isn’t going the way he would like. Or, when he is able to verbally share an emotion he is feeling or tell us something he observed–that is when I am amazed by his progress and potential for growth.

      Thank you for your honesty. I have definitely felt what you are feeling. Be brave and enjoy those moments of joy and celebrate those moments of strength.

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